Lately I’ve been seeing and hearing an influx of various opinions regarding showing weakness and struggling with life. Comments such as “stop placing blame, look at your own issues and deal with them”, “don’t be weak, push forward no matter how hard it gets and move on”, “don’t whine, people have it much harder than you”, have been filling my newsfeeds, reminding me of how little people want to deal with other people’s shit. Sure, there are people out there that simply don’t take responsibility for their own actions/decisions and never will (I used to be married to one). But the majority of people in this world are not like that. They are human beings, trying to make their way in the world. They make mistakes, they struggle, sometimes they blame (and sometimes justifiably so, because believe it or not, sometimes there IS another person(s) that is responsible for what’s happened), they reason, they come to terms and they move on. This is all part of healing, and yes, sometimes it’s takes YEARS to get through. Yet our culture seems hell-bent on silencing people, telling them it’s not ok to show the undesirable aspect of this healing process, or they are being “weak”, “selfish”, “unrealistic”, or that they are “better than this”. It doesn’t surprise me that we see mental health issues and suicide continually on the rise when we’re told by our culture exactly how we should be dealing with our problems, and that if we fall outside of those definitions, we’re poor/bad humans.
Perhaps instead of more or less telling others to “grow a set” and deal with their own issues as one thinks they should, the people expressing these opinions should take a look at why other people’s issues bother them so much.